Getting Married at St John the Evangelist
Getting Married at St John the Evangelist, Brigg
As soon as you have a date in mind let us know your good news and we can begin to plan your big day.
For all enquiries regarding getting married and/or weddings, please call Fr Owain Mitchell on 01652 653989
A few months before your wedding, Fr. Owain will invite you to an informal meeting to discuss your wedding day and for help to prepare for your married life together. This is a no-obligation invitation, but one that many couples appreciate as it provides time and space to think about the vows and the difference they will make.
With the help of Fr. Owain, you can make your choices about which hymns, readings, music and what sort of prayers you would like.
You have choices about who does the readings and prayers, which if you wish can involve your family and friends.
It’s up to you what you wear and whether you have one ring or two. If the church and the Vicar are free, you can marry on any day of the week. And with the Vicar’s help, you can make choices about what type of words are used in the service.
Your Vicar is trained and experienced to advise you, and knows your church very well, so with their help you’ll be able to make choices that you’re all happy with.
Banns are announcements in church of your intention to marry and a chance for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. On these occasions, everyone in your church will also be praying for you. It can be very special and moving, so go along if you can.
Near your wedding day, perhaps a day or two before, you will have the opportunity to rehearse the ceremony with those who are involved.
Fr. Owain will do all he can to make the day a personal, meaningful and spiritual experience for you and your guests.
First Anniversary and beyond, your church will always be there for you throughout your marriage if you need it. Even if your local church is not the place where you married, they would be delighted to mark your first anniversary by praying for you both. All you have to do is ask.
There are also other services to fit different circumstances:
Marriage Services – the authorised services for marrying couples
Service of Prayer and Dedication (sometimes called a ‘blessing’) – a simple service, designed for couples who have had a civil marriage ceremony in the UK or abroad and want to have a church service afterwards.
Services of Thanksgiving for Marriage – this is a service for those who wish to renew their marriage vows. It might be held in church or in another location, such as the home.
Marriage after divorce
Your church wishes you a lifetime of love that grows within God’s protection. But we recognise that some marriages do fail for all sorts of sad and painful reasons.
So in certain circumstances the Church of England accepts that a divorced person may marry again and this has been the case since 2002.
There may be a way forward for you to remarry in a church, but you should talk to your Vicar about this. Every Vicar will want to help you, though there are some who don’t feel able to offer a wedding to couples where one or both of the partners have been divorced. In any case your Vicar will want to talk frankly about your past and hopes for the future and will then be able to advise you.
Even if it is not possible to do your wedding, they may offer a service of prayer and dedication after a civil wedding. There are more resources about this on the Church of England web site.